You can move forward, but you never move on.

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So my first question for you is, why did you want to do this?

I felt a real sense of relief when I got that phone call because I was like, wow, there’s actually somebody that kind of understands what I’m going through.

If I can be a beacon of hope for one person through this interview like that would fulfill me.

I remember making a list. I wrote down a list of all the first that I had to do this year, and I have it in my diary.

You can move forward, but you never move on.

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I just remember saying to myself, wake up every day, get dressed and go for a walk.

I hated people giving me sympathy because all I really wanted was what you gave me, which was just like you gave me courage because you just listen to me and you just were real with me.

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You just know when you’ve been dealt a card that you weren’t expecting or asking for and it’s not a club you want to be part of, but if you’re there, unfortunately, you have to get it in order to know how to see other people in that way.

.. I remember, and it helps me keep perspective of the important things in life.

Have you been able to maintain that sense of perspective 20 years on now?

How has this helped you as a mother?

But the good thing is it’s made me. Value family. So much I mean, we’re so close, our family, you and I, and they wouldn’t trade that for anything.

Are your kids learning to cope with stress because of what
you’ve learned?

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How does it feel to talk about it now?

Any advice you would give to your 20 year old self on how to move forward, what you know now, looking back, that you wish you knew then?

You can’t control what door you’re going to go through, what’s going to happen, but you just have to accept and hope you made the right decision.

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